I thought I would give a brief update on where I am at with all the grieving stuff after losing one of my best friend’s Danae several months ago. Honestly grieving her death has been one of the most complicated and unpredictable things for me. I hate that the hard moments come out of nowhere with no warning. There will be a few days where she will subtly cross my mind but all in the best ways with great little memories. Then out of nowhere it will hit me like a bus and I can’t stop thinking about her, how much I miss her, how unfair that she isn’t here, and every little thing reminds me of our good times but it makes me sad.
I hate the unpredictableness of all this but I have chosen to embrace it and work through it even though it sucks. Ugh it sucks.
One thing I have not been able to deny is how much she has caused me to strive after life hard. I am not a fan of wasting time and she has taught me how brief life can be and to not take it for granted. I can honestly say since her passing I have done this. I have made decisions faster, taken leaps quicker, and set fear to the side at exponential levels compared to before. (Ex. Studio expansion and many many things in the works)
So much of what I do is done in honor of her. I would do anything to have her alongside me but I really do feel like she is. I’m not a theologian and I don’t know how all that stuff works but I can say that I feel her nudges and things come into my life that she has something to do with. I picture her having conversations with God saying things like “let’s rock Kirstin’s world in this way” and a crazy opportunity follows (phew that’s so personal to share) but it seems to help because I really believe it to be true.
She not here but I am thankful that she continues to be active in my life each day and I feel it.
Hiiiiii!!!! I am so excited to share with you guys our home tour! Tomas and I bought this house about three months ago through Paige Wagner you can read about that story here. It has been such a blessing and we have been over the top OBSESSED with it since day one!
When we moved in, I had very specific ideas about what I wanted the look and vibe of our home to be. Something I do not struggle with is making decisions, so I basically made up my mind for each room and ran with it!
There are still a lot of things we want to do, especially in the pool area and landscaping in the front but for the most part I feel like this house and its design really captures Tomas and mines style.
As you’ll see in the pictures I like a very clean, clutter free space. It is important to me that when Tomas and I get home at night and when we wake up in the morning, that our home is a safe place to unwind. I am really into vibe, so the second we get home I light candles and play some Bossa Nova music. This helps us to unwind from a long day and gets my brain to chill out a bit (just a bit though 😉 ).
I will do a followup post on how we keep things clean and organized. Everything we have we use and I am very minimalistic in that way, so I’ll share some tips and tricks on that with you guys soon!
Welcome to our home!
*not shown is a huge outdoor patio that we want to make into the perfect outdoor entertaining space. I also didn’t take picture of an additional spare bedroom that is complete empty and our master bathroom that I still want to make some changes to.
I feel like I am always in situations and conversations where time management comes up. This might sound so nerdy and weird but I am actually OBSESSED with time management. It does come super easy to me and I almost see life as a puzzle and I am filling in that puzzle with pieces and organizing it to make my schedule work best. Tomas makes fun of me because he does not understand this at all but I kinda get a high off it and love doing it for myself and helping other people with it.
Soooo many people when they are wanting to start something new or add a good habit into their life immediately tell themselves “well, I don’t have time”. This is honestly the worst excuse because it’s BS. We all know we make time for things that are important to us and if they aren’t then they don’t make it on to the list and don’t happen. We have the same amount of hours in a day as Beyonce 😉 .
When I was launching the studio I could have looked at my life as said “I have no time”. I was nannying 40 hours a week, helping Tomas with his business, seeing nutrition clients and private Pilates clients. It didn’t seem like there were enough hours in the day but I started time blocking and made it happen.
What is time blocking you ask? Well, I would have a pretty set schedule and block out times for certain things to make it all fit in a day. For instance, every morning I would time block from 9am- noon to see clients. Then I would nanny from 1-9pm (an hour commute each way, where I would listen to podcasts on personal growth and make business calls), get home and work on my business from 10pm-1am (sometimes 2am :/ ) and wake up and do it over and over again for about nine months. I’m not saying it was healthy or sustainable but it had to happen for me to get my dreams off the ground. On Saturday’s and Sunday’s, I would put about five hours each day into the biz so by the end of the week I had given my business 25 hours a week and got an ish ton done. I did this for nine months and had a fully running business and a team of twenty by the end of it.
Once The Balance Culture studio was open my schedule got only crazier with meetings, classes, and just figuring things out in general. I no longer had the nannying job but I had to become a pro at mastering my time or else nothing would get done.
I now was doing a lot of different things so I took it a step further and categorized everything by color. I did this in the calendar settings under my iPhone. So as an example “nutrition clients” is dark blue, “meetings with my team” is red, and “classes” are orange. It’s so easy to do and it makes it so much easier to organize when I look at it.
If you look at the calendar in my phone now almost every hour in the day is blocked off for something. I then have my “lists” in my phone where I go into more details. I have it broken down into what I need to get done that week and future things I need to be thinking about so it literally says “Now:” and “Future:” with the lists that follow. I also have a “Shopping:” one at the bottom, to keep track of what I need to get at the store. I live between my calendar and lists all the time.
*The pictures don’t show this because I actually made a calendar and list specifically for the post as a example (I have a lot of people’s personal info, clients and such, but I wanted you to get the idea 😉 ) but i actually am really detailed in my calendar events and lists. There’s a million things going on in my mind at any given moment, so the less I have to figure out by what I meant the better!
At night around 9pm, I look at my calendar for the next day and confirm all meetings and make myself familiar with the day so I can plan to bring a lunch, or what clothes I need to walk out the door with (sometimes needing to change for fitness classes or a meeting), and make myself really familiar with my schedule for the following day and I feel so much less overwhelmed. I then look at my lists “now” and “future” and pick about 3 or 4 things that I am going to focus on tomorrow and move those to the top.
I am SOOOOO much more productive when I am organized and it helps my brain stay calm, that’s weird but its just what works for me.
We set ourselves up to fail sometimes when we want to add a great habit into our lives or start something new but don’t make space for it. Carving out time sets you up for success! Time blocking is not sexy I get it, but it might be a silly little thing that is keeping you from your dreams!
You guyyyysssss happy 2017!!!! There are soooo many things I feel like I need to catch you guys up on and I promise I will in the very near future!
It’s the beginning of the year so everyone’s dreams and ambitions for the year are high (as they should be). So many of my followers are people in business or are wanting to start a business so I wanted to share something that has been really helpful to me from the beginning- my business consultants at We Are Curio.
For starters, they have no idea I’m writing this post and have never even asked me to promote them, even though they have helped me so much and deserve so much credit.
Ok so my experience:
Something I have really struggled with since starting The Balance Culture is where The Balance Culture ends and Kirstin begins. I love my business and all the parallels between us but we are definitely two different entities. I have dreams and visions for The Balance Culture and where I want to take it, but I also have dreams for myself personally and goals in my personal and professional life outside of BC that I want to pursue. I can easily neglect myself and go 100% BC getting into a psycho work mode but since hiring Hillary and Jason with Curio they have not allowed this to happen, literally saving me and my biz.
When I first hired them we did a lot of empathy work. This was basically them getting to know me in every way. How I make decisions, my strengths, my weaknesses, where I wanted to take things, and how hard I was willing to work. They wanted to understand the operations of The Balance Culture but they really wanted to understand me. One thing they told me in our first meeting was “The Balance Culture will only be as healthy as you are”. Shhhiiiii when they said that, I was like oh my gahhh they are so right, I immediately wrote them a check and signed the contracts, not really but kinda really 😉 .
I quickly understood that I couldn’t neglect myself and get to the places I wanted to go on my own and everything was getting so much bigger than me. I needed an army and they became my army. In our sessions they wear twenty different hats, everything from problem solvers, to idea provokers, revamping our branding, as well as being my therapists. Like for real, I might have had a meltdown or two that they have talked me through and got me out of whatever weird space in my head I was in 😉 (shout out to you guys!) .
I won’t lie to you guys, some of what they have done for me I probably could have done on my own but because of their help I got there A LOT faster and with a tonnnnnn less mistakes. That problem was solved faster, that idea was put into action faster (or shut down quicker because I was getting ahead of myself 😉 ), or whatever meltdown/ negative place I was in I came out of quicker so I could be a psycho for a lot less time (win for everyone!). One thing I hate more than anything is wasting time, it is a serious pet peeve of mine, so when I hired them and realized I could save time and get done what I needed to faster. I was so in. Done and done.
Having both Jason and Hillary and the different things they bring with their own personalities has really helped as well. I tend to think more like a guy. I compartmentalize and am more pragmatic in my thoughts but my leadership style is more like Hillary (I can be a hard a**, sorry Hill but we are). They have so much experience to pull from and this helps me feel not so alone. They are always honest with me and give it to me straight, which I appreciate because if I am hiring you for help I don’t want you to make me feel good, I want to get ish done.
So here’s my plug for them. If you don’t even have an idea yet of what you want to do or what it looks like and need help navigating that, hire them. If you have an idea but are stuck and don’t know how to get it off the ground, hire them. If you have a full blown business and want to take it to the next level, hire them.
Here’s their info:
Email them at firstname.lastname@example.org
Hey girl, I get it. Fitness classes can be SUPER intimidating. A bunch of girls with six packs, super fit, and beautiful all jumping around in class together working to chisel` those abs just a little more. This is what we think and how we feel so we don’t go because we don’t want to be the only “normal” girl there. Believe it or not there was a time that I was going to my first fitness class too and I felt the same exact way.
I can’t speak for every gym and studio but I can speak for The Balance Culture. This fear of working out with other woman, being compared, and feeling like you are not good enough, is something I have been hearing a lot of lately. To the woman who is feeling this way, I am so sorry it has taken me so long to address this.
After being at The Balance Culture for over a year and seeing how much this has not been the case I kind of forgot that people who haven’t been to the studio don’t know this and can feel this way, like honestly it completely slipped my mind until meeting with woman after woman and hearing them say “I want to come but I am scared” I felt like I couldn’t not say anything for any longer.
I might not feel like this anymore and might have close to 1,000 fitness classes under my belt but I definitely feel this way in other situations. I can remember holding myself back time and time again because, “I wasn’t smart enough, or I didn’t have enough experience, I didn’t look like I fit the part, and I wasn’t qualified enough”. It was crippling, it left me with hundreds of missed out experiences and I was miserable. I genuinely believed that everyone else had this life thing figured out aside from me.
About two years ago I decided to take charge of this and started a season of “YES!”. This meant that any opportunity that came my way I was going to say “yes” to and not put any more thought to it. It was terrifying, I was nervous, but I couldn’t be the one to hold myself back anymore, I was over it. When I started this two years ago is when my world completely changed. Kid you not two weeks later Southeastern University reached out to me about staring in a commercial about myself (you can read more about that here), I started the blog (which my sister made me do) and remember I couldn’t say no, and then I was basically given the space for the studio, again I couldn’t say no. It was so painful to push through despite all my inadequacies but I couldn’t go against my “yes promise”.
Saying yes to everything for one season and not letting myself be a victim to fear set the stage for the rest of my life.
Once I started saying yes, things got so much easier, I noticed everyone felt like I did and that barely anyone walks into anything new confidently. It became like a muscle I was working and the more experiences I had, the easier it was, to the point where it is just apart of my life now. Please hear me though, there are many many situations that I still go into terrified but I wont EVER let fear be the reason I don’t do it.
In college when I was drowning in my thesis and exams I would constantly ask myself “who is on the other side of your obedience?”. By not doing that one thing that God has called you to do who are you not helping?? This was a huge motivator for me and continues to be years later.
So this post does not only pertain to fear of fitness classes but fears of opportunities and stepping out in the things God has called you to. I started that season of “yes” two years ago and I am going two years strong. I have never once regretted it and continue to push myself in so many areas despite feels super uncomfortable every step of the way.
To prove that you are not the only person with those fears, here are some testimonies of amazing women who did not exactly feel super comfortable coming to the studio for the first time and how they got past it.
Hi! My name is Brooke and my life has been forever changed by The Balance Culture. I can honestly say that I have often been hesitant about trying a fitness class or going to a gym. I have always been embarrassed because I feel so inadequate next to people who may be more fit than me. Well, God has been working in my heart lately and reminding me of how He sees me. So with that beautiful reminder and with some encouraging words from dear friends & family, I decided to try out The Balance Culture. I fell in love with this place on day one and now I am a member! I left that first Barre class a few months ago feeling encouraged and inspired. I am forever thankful for this space filled with women who empower each other while getting healthier and stronger day by day. I truly feel like I belong because I do and so do YOU! I encourage you to step out and try something new. I hope to see you in class one day!
I had wanted to try Barre for years but couldn’t find any classes offered locally. So when I read about The Balance Culture coming to Lakeland and saw Barre classes would be offered, I was so excited! But I was nervous in my first class… I remember thinking, “I’m too old for this place; look at all these young girls!” and “I’m too overweight, what am I doing here?”. But I made a choice, to shove those negative thoughts aside and give the class a try anyway. And I was HOOKED… I remember feeling strong and energized, and still feel that way after every class! From day one I’ve felt welcomed and encouraged in all of the classes I’ve taken, and I love being part of this community of fun, strong, healthy women!
When first hearing of The Balance Culture it sounded like such a unique and exciting place, yet I was nervous to come for multiple reasons. I think fear of not making it through the class and the intimidating, younger generation made me a little hesitant to go. I went to my first class, barrelates, with a friend, and my perspective has been different ever since! One of my favorite aspects of Balance Culture would have to be the welcoming community. Everyone is so inviting, and the furthest thing from judgmental; this creates such a positive atmosphere. Now when I go to class, I know even if I won’t be able to do the entire workout at the hardest degree, modifications will be shown and alternatives will be given; making it so adaptable to any age and any fitness level. For me, I would say the scariest thing would have been getting the “first time” over with, because now I am more comfortable and am inclined to go because of the supportive and encouraging Balance Culture community.
I was always intimidated by group fitness and even more intimidated when I thought about a place full of only women and group fitness. After finally getting myself to walk in the doors at The Balance Culture, all my insecurities went away. No one knew me, but everyone was welcoming and so helpful in guiding me on what I needed for the class and where to go. The first class I went to was Pilates and I absolutely loved it. I love the fact that you can take these classes and make them challenging to fit your needs. I have never felt so confident in myself and so encouraged by women than when I do at BC! I love this place.
These women are so inspiring and I am forever thankful that they stepped out of their comfort zone and came to The Balance Culture so I could get to know them and build a relationship with them!
I thought I would give a brief update on where I am at with all the grieving stuff after losing one of my best friend's Danae several months ago. Honestly grieving her death has been one of the most complicated and unpredictable things for me. I hate that the hard...read more
Hiiiiii!!!! I am so excited to share with you guys our home tour! Tomas and I bought this house about three months ago through Paige Wagner you can read about that story here. It has been such a blessing and we have been over the top OBSESSED with it since day one!...read more
I feel like I am always in situations and conversations where time management comes up. This might sound so nerdy and weird but I am actually OBSESSED with time management. It does come super easy to me and I almost see life as a puzzle and I am filling in that puzzle...read more
You guyyyysssss happy 2017!!!! There are soooo many things I feel like I need to catch you guys up on and I promise I will in the very near future! It’s the beginning of the year so everyone’s dreams and ambitions for the year are high (as they should be). So many of...read more
Hey girl, I get it. Fitness classes can be SUPER intimidating. A bunch of girls with six packs, super fit, and beautiful all jumping around in class together working to chisel` those abs just a little more. This is what we think and how we feel so we don’t go because...read more