Seasonal regret is an idea/concept that I came up with a while ago. I am about to give you a snapshot into my mind and how it works so buckle up!
One of my number one pet peeves about myself is when I look back at a season of my life and think about how much I stressed and worried about whatever it is that was going on and borderline ruined that season of life because of it. I chose to focus on all the things I couldn’t control, let the anxiety of the situation/situations overcome me and I didn’t live that season of my life to the fullest because of it. I literally hate that I do this and have really made a conscious effort over the last year to stop this cycle.
A season has a start and an end so it is only there for a period of time. Our lives are filled with one season after another and throughout that season there will be serious highs and serious lows, its bound to happen that’s just how life is. Through this season perspective is everything. We can choose to focus on those lows, those things we can’t control, those things that keep us up at night, or focus on the highs and just know that the lows are inevitable and we all have them, its just how we choose to see them.
I swallowed the big pill of holy crap I’m scared I don’t know if I can do this a long time ago. I decided that if I was going to keep growing and challenging myself this is just where I was going to live and I had to become OK with it or I was going to spend the rest of my life living it a state of stress and feeling miserable. It really does always work out, everything always falls into place the way it should, so why spend that whole time a freaking hot mess.
I find myself struggling with more of this lately and really having to guard my mind and thoughts. I am keeping this idea of seasonal regret at the forefront of my mind because I have so many amazing things going on that I am choosing to not focus on the fairly large leaps of faith I have in front of me.
God has me and He’s got you, trust Him and join me in this combat of seasonal regret 🙂
*Photo by Victoria Bardega, she is the Queen of photography! check her out! >>> link
The question I have gotten over the last two years more than any other question has been about starting a business without business background, what it is like to be an entrepreneur in a heavily male dominated industry, and how I pushed past all the fears and insecurities. I have attempted to write this post literally a hundred different times, but get too overwhelmed with everything I want to share, so I close my computer and move forward.
My business consultants, We Are Curio are freaking amazing and they continue to touch base with me in between meetings and send me ideas and ways to expand my business constantly. Hillary sent to me this podcast by Christy Wright about women in business so I listened right away.
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*It says it is 37 minutes it really isn’t, its more like 20 (the last 10 minutes are a question an answer set with a alumni or something).
Kid you not, I agree with every single little thing this woman is saying. It’s like she took the words right out of my heart and mind. I thought it would be way easier to just share the link then just come up with my own rendition of saying essentially the same thing. One of my favorite things she said was, “There is no level of success where you outgrow fear”. Man, there was so much freedom when I heard that. I struggle with the fact that I still have fears and wonder if they will ever go away, hearing that its just part of the process and that others feel the same was everything to me!
If you are a woman in business or are thinking about starting a business I highly recommend hearing what she has to say.
I am so excited to share that we bought a house! This could not be happening at a crazier time, but I say bring on the crazy I love this house and I am so excited to be in it!
Tomas and I have never been homeowners and we have been married for seven years. It just never seemed to work out. We got married in school and were definitely not rolling in the dough, we both did our masters, so previous statement reigns even more true, then we launched Tomas’s business which was money but not consistent and needed a lot of money on the front end to get established and stuff (office blah blah blah). Then we launched my business, and got our new office spaces (taking our money for a down payment and putting it towards the new office and studio). Now we are both 1099 business contractors (boring stuff you don’t even want to know) but that basically means you have to show two years of consistent income to apply for a mortgage which we hadn’t completed our two years yet. I say alllll that to say that buying a house at this time wasn’t in the cards for us so it wasn’t even a thought.
But God had different plans, here’s kinda how the story unfolded:
So my best friend Ruthie was selling her house and was looking at houses to buy on Zillow. We were walking around Marshalls and she casual says “I found this house and I like it, but it’s not historic and isn’t as close to the lake as I would like” and she pulled up the pics to show me and I was like “Ruthie, I am obsessed with this house you have to buy it!!!” She was kinda like “mehhh” and that was that. A week later Tomas and I are walking around downtown Denver catching up on life and casually I told him about the house. I was telling him more in the sense of, its nice to know that houses I like exist in our price range especially since we are looking to buy in six months and that was that. The next morning Ruthie sends me a text of a link to a house she found that she really liked, so I asked her to send me the link of the other one. I showed it to Tomas and he was like “Oh my God, we need to buy this house!” I was like “Are you kidding me, you like it that much?!?!” I was honestly shocked because Tomas and I have wayyy different taste and have NEVER liked the same house before, like NEVER! He then gets on the phone with our tax guy to see what he can make happen. Honestly the whole thing happened so fast, before I knew it we were putting in a offer and on the phone with our realtor, Paige Wagner, touring the house on Face Time. To remind you we were in Colorado and still had a week to be there and we are signing contracts on our cell phones on top of a mountain (mid hike) and sending it over. It was seriously a whirlwind, but before I knew it I had a Pinterest board going and I was even more obsessed with this house!!
Our offer got accepted (yes, we made an offer, it got accepted, we were in Colorado, and had never seen it, we cray) and we got into town and saw the house FINALLY in person. Good thing was we loved it even more. It’s a perfect combination of Tomas and I, I love big open floor plan, white everything, tons and tons of light, and he loves a home perfectly conducive for a million parties. The whole back of the house opens up to a pool, Jacuzzi, and back patio so Tomas was sold!
A really cool thing that I wanted to share was, over a year ago when we took the money for a down payment and put it towards our businesses, I told God I knew this was the right decision and I had peace about it but I would really love to be a homeowner by my 30th birthday. It was trivial and I literally said it believing it probably wasn’t going to happen, but it really is cool to see that God cares about the tiny things that are important to us, I turn 30 in December and we move into the house last week! I seriously cried when I realized this! We are so so excited and I can’t wait to grow our memories in this new house!
Special shout out to Paige Wagner, she is the most amazing realtor and has been so great through this whole process. It is really important to me to have someone come alongside us who is communicative, efficient, and fast at making things happen and that was so Paige!! If you are looking to buy or sell a house, hit her up, she is totally your girl!!
I LOVVVVEEE interior decorating and I am going nuts with what I can do with this house!! So pray for Tomas, our bank accounts, and my love for all things Anthropologie/ West Elm/ Crate & Barrel because things are about to get realllll cray! 😉
We currently are in the middle of painting the whole inside of the house. It was a really nice grey but all of my furniture it grey so i knew it would clash. We are painting it white and I am cannot wait for it to be done! I’ll definitely be posting pictures of the house soon and the changes we have made to it but in the meantime here are pics from the listing.
P.S. Rest in peace bright green door 😉
I don’t do a ton of posts about things happening at The Balance Culture studio. I know I have a lot of followers who don’t live in the area so I try not to make this blog all about that, so much so that I never talk about it very much. I wanted to make this post a little more relative to all so I will include that in here at the end!
The holidays are a hard time to stay motivated to work out and eat healthy. Trust me, I am straight up in the industry and I still struggle with this. I am all about enjoying myself and relaxing but when I stop working out and eating healthy it really does impact me more than on a physical level. The stress and anxiety creeps back and I can just tell I am not my best self. This year I really don’t want to slip into that slump so I somewhat selfishly wanted to have a Balance Culture Holiday Challenge. Everyone loves a good challenge to stay motivated and almost compete with yourself. We did the math and some calculations and between the months of November and December there are 52 days The Balance Culture is open. We really thought it was reasonable for people to shoot for working out 40 of those 52 days. The challenge starts November 1st and ends December 31st. Only one workout a day counts but we might have some days/times/workouts that will be bonus points. If you complete the challenge you win a Balance Culture tank with the new logo on it! The new logo hasn’t been revealed yet in case you were wondering 😉
I also wanted to offer something to those that don’t attend The Balance Culture or live too far away to take part in the challenge. This will be honor system based but if you want to take part in the challenge but don’t go to The Balance Culture you can still do the challenge and if you complete it you get a Balance Culture water bottle (if you don’t live in the area we will mail it to you!). Us ladies need to stick together and we need that holiday motivation! If you are a member or attender of The Balance Culture let us know at the front desk that you want to be apart and if you aren’t/ aren’t in the area email us 🙂 (email@example.com) .
First of all, how am I writing this post already?!?! The Balance Culture has been open for a year and I can barely handle myself! I’m not gonna lie, I can barely remember life before BC, it’s somewhat of a blur for sure, but in the same sense time has flown by.
I could have never imagined the things God has in store for me over the last year. I truly am a testament to how Gods plans are better than our own.
I have been super nostalgic over the last few weeks, thinking about how I felt this time last year. The nerves were unreal, the fear was VERY real and I felt like I was half holding my breath every moment leading up to opening. I had no idea if anyone was going to come, if our goal of community was going to be achieved, and what The Balance Culture was really going to look like. I lived most moment’s terrified but continued to step forward knowing that God had it all under control no matter what.
Being one year in, God has exceeding any and all expectations by a million. From day one, our mission of empowering women became very clear and to put faces to the women we were wanting to create the environment for, took everything to a whole other level. For the last year, my heart has been so full from the friendships I have made with hundreds of women at The Balance Culture. I have been so challenged to be my best self in a way like never before; I really see how my community has challenged me.
I can’t begin to take credit for any of this. I really see how God has orchestrated everything and I continually sit back in awe and think to myself “really God, me?!”. My team is everything; I am constantly having a blast because I get to work with all of my closest friends that I now consider sisters, it really is a dream. Lakeland has really come behind The Balance Culture woman and supported us in a multiple ways, we owe so much of our success to Lakeland really coming behind the vision and wouldn’t be here it wasn’t for our Lakeland ladies, love all of you!! My husband Tomas deserves his own chapter in this book but I won’t bore you guys with all the mushy details. All I’ll say is Tomas is seriously the most supportive and encouraging man I have ever met. He pushes and challenges me to be the best business owner/ leader I can be and really makes sure I stop to have fun and enjoy it all. I can get so serious and caught up in work and he is so silly and goofy and makes sure I laugh a million times a day. All of my sanity credit should be given to him. 🙂
Most have you have been following this journey from the beginning. I am so thankful I have the highs and the lows documented throughout this blog, it has been so much fun to have you guys along with me! Thank you all for your continued support, it really means the world to me!
We have some really exciting news that I CANNOT wait to share with you guys, so stay tuned because things are about to get realllllll!
Join us all week to celebrate The Balance Culture turning ONE! Heres’s what we have going on:
M – 9/26 28% off ALL merch
T – 9/27 Free water bottle for you and the friend you bring
W – 9/28 ** FREE classes all day ** We will be raffling off a FREE Year Membership and if you sign up for a membership this day only get your first month FREE! FREE iced coffee from Concord Coffee!! **
TH – 9/29 Dixieland giveaway in each class (Concord, Born & Bread, 5th & Hall, A Kind Place, Art Centric & Fat Maggies)
F – 9/30 Everyone leaves w/ free class card to give a friend! And join us Friday evening at 7:30PM for Couple’s Barre!
S – 10/1 Nutrition Workshop 10AM-11:30AM $25
P.S. If you have been putting your dreams on hold, DON’T! One year in and I can’t imagine my life differently! God is such a big part of our success but I will tell you my team and I have worked our a**’s off to make this last year successful! So stop thinking about it and get to work, your dreams are waiting!!! Who is on the other side of your obedience! #letsfly 😉
Seasonal regret is an idea/concept that I came up with a while ago. I am about to give you a snapshot into my mind and how it works so buckle up! One of my number one pet peeves about myself is when I look back at a season of my life and think about how much I...read more
The question I have gotten over the last two years more than any other question has been about starting a business without business background, what it is like to be an entrepreneur in a heavily male dominated industry, and how I pushed past all the fears and...read more
I am so excited to share that we bought a house! This could not be happening at a crazier time, but I say bring on the crazy I love this house and I am so excited to be in it! Tomas and I have never been homeowners and we have been married for seven years. It just...read more
I don’t do a ton of posts about things happening at The Balance Culture studio. I know I have a lot of followers who don’t live in the area so I try not to make this blog all about that, so much so that I never talk about it very much. I wanted to make this post a...read more
First of all, how am I writing this post already?!?! The Balance Culture has been open for a year and I can barely handle myself! I’m not gonna lie, I can barely remember life before BC, it’s somewhat of a blur for sure, but in the same sense time has flown by. I...read more